Nice Calvinists?

Messy Christian has a post that has stirred up a lot of discussion. She asks if there is such a thing as a nice Calvinist. Interesting question. Personally, I'd have to say that there are nice Calvinists, just don't bring up the subject. It seems like any time there is a discussion that can begin to look like it might discuss Calvinism, it inevitably does. Its not that there are civil debates about the subject, its that the discussions ALWAYS seem to be debates. Our Sunday school class has lost more members over the years because of the Calvinists in the class than any other single reason...probably than EVERY other reason combined. Its not that they are mean people or bad people, its that the subject comes up over and over and over and over and over and...well, you get the idea. Most people aren't that tied down ideologically. They don't want to discuss the same topic all the time. It's kind of like being around a charismatic who only wants to talk about speaking in tongues...